7 Self-Loving Affirmations to Say to Yourself Every Day!

3 Jul

IMG_0611Hey, love bugs <3!

We all need positive affirmations. All of the “I don’t care what people think about me” talk is cute, but it’s honestly a big fat lie. We say it because we want to believe that other people’s opinions really don’t matter to us, but they do. Now, the number of people whose opinion actually matters may decrease as we age, but there will still always be a handful whose thoughts we hold in high regard. And that’s okay because we’re human and it’s in our nature to long for approval, acceptance and love. What’s not okay, though, is when we solely rely on other people’s approval to make us feel good, or when we allow others’ disapproval to get into our heads and hinder us in any capacity. Before people even have the opportunity to be pro-you or anti-you, you should have your own positive sense of self that has nothing to do with their perception, but everything to do with knowing how awesome you are! This way when you hear good, it’s just positive reinforcement, and when you hear bad, you’ll be able to recover from the sting much quicker because you already know who you are and what you’re made of. Only when you fall in unconditional love with yourself, without the influence of others, will you be able to live your best life. Here are 7 self-loving affirmations that you can say to yourself at the start of each day. Maybe you already know each one to be true and just want a reminder, or maybe you’re still working towards loving you unconditionally. Either way, speaking them out loud or writing them down won’t hurt!

1. I’m Beautiful. This beauty encompasses the inside and outside. Know that everything from the way you think to the shape of your nose is beautiful. Your being, from the inside-out, is literally the only one of its kind and there will never be another. You’re an exclusive, and we all know the value and beauty in exclusivity.

2. I’m Worthy. Regardless of any shortcomings or mistakes, you’re still worthy. Worthy of happiness, worthy of real love, worthy of genuine friendships, worthy of forgiveness, worthy of life. Sometimes we create these stories in our head and believe that our mistakes and even disadvantages that we have no control over rid our right to a good life. Not true! You were, still are, and will always be worthy of all things good.

3. I’m Powerful. I love that song “I didn’t Know My Own Strength” by Whitney Houston! Sometimes life’s difficulties can cause us to forget our resiliency. But in each of us is an emotional and mental strength that’s strong enough to bounce us back to wherever we’re supposed to be. We have the power to speak up, the power to pick our battles, the power to get up again, the power to fight back, the power to wisely sit in silence. The power to do whatever we need to do in each and every moment.

4. I’m Equipped. You’re fully equipped with every tool you need to make it. Even if you don’t think your current situation is ideal, as long as you have vision and instinct, you’re good to go. It’s always a plus to have a strong support system or a big balance in the bank, but if you don’t, it’s still okay. Your instincts will show you how to acquire those things as long as you stay focused and tune out distractions. Most people who’ve “made it” started with little to nothing: Tyler Perry, Oprah and President Obama, just to name a few. The most valuable resources are those that are intangible.

5. I’m the Exception. I was just telling my BFF’s little sister the other day that you have to start each day knowing that you’re special and the norm doesn’t apply to you. Maybe at your age it’s too late by societal standards to do whatever it is you want to do or get whatever it is you want to get, but you’re the exception. We shouldn’t have to be denied anything that is truly for us just because the world said so. The key is persistence and not giving up. If you go after what you want every single day, you’re bound to get it. Only when you give up are you the norm.

6. I’m at Peace. These are listed in no particular order, but you may want to start off with this one. I’ve come to realize that when we have a lot of noise in our ears and distraction around us, it’s harder to function. We’re off our game, our intuition isn’t sharp, and our judgment is misguided.  Take a few deep, slow breaths while focusing on absolutely nothing, and then tell yourself “I’m at peace.” three times. No matter how bad the day may seem, try to keep your peace. See past the now, and keep your eyes on the big picture. Know that today is just a moment that’s leading to something greater, and an unfortunate situation isn’t worth your loss of peace. You need peace for everything, whether it’s being a nurturing mom, supportive spouse, wise entrepreneur, valuable employee, or good student. To function at your highest capacity, you need peace!

7. I’m Alive. Not the literal sense of alive, but alive in the sense of enjoying life. There are so many blessings to witness every single day, and we miss out on them when we’re not living in each moment. We all have busy agendas, but if we’re so consumed with checking off each bullet on our to-do list, then we forget to look up and enjoy what’s around us. It could be something as simple as the way your daughter smiled, or the new tulips your landlord potted outside of your building. Don’t get to the point where you’re just waking up each day and going through the motions; that’s no way to live. Take time to smile, laugh, and find beauty in the simple things.



4 Responses to “7 Self-Loving Affirmations to Say to Yourself Every Day!”

  1. Christi July 3, 2014 at 12:09 pm #

    Yeeeeeessss to all of this (including your hair lol!) Something else I definitely need to include in my daily (or at the very least, weekly) life! Will be printing this one out as well! Thanks!

    Liked by 1 person

    • Essence July 3, 2014 at 12:54 pm #

      Lol @ “(including your hair…)! Thanks for reading… and noting the natural! ❤


  2. imannespeaks July 3, 2014 at 1:16 pm #

    Thanks for these lovely words of encouragement 😊

    Liked by 1 person

  3. Courtney Connley July 3, 2014 at 4:09 pm #

    Thanks for this Essence!!! This is definitely something we could all use!

    Liked by 1 person

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